Author Archives: Natalia Love

About Natalia Love

Disciple of Jesus Christ. Simply a simple loving woman. "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.Take my yoke on you and learn from me, because I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls." (Matthew 11:28-29)

I am pro-choice. I choose love.

Love precedes life. Indifference and self-centeredness precede death – that is spiritual and physical death, including self-destruction.

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I’m not a huge fan of technology mostly because of how people chose to use it. Technology is not a moral being; its neutral so to speak. But the moral beings that use it can choose to do so for good or for evil. In the case of healthcare, neonatal technology is awesome! It’s come such a long way and it’s really amazing the capacity that the human being has when the technology is used for good. Can you believe that abortions in the US are legally allowed even in the 3rd trimester? Planned Parenthood does abortions up to 24 weeks because you see these are not human beings yet, the baby is not yet alive, and I as a woman have the right to choose to terminate it?!? I can’t believe that scientifically we allow this misinformation to happen.

Let me just speak from my personal experience for the year 2016. This is the number of premiees that I’ve come in contact in my pediatric practice last year : 2 babies who were born at 20 weeks (yup,no typo here); 1 who was born at 22 weeks; 2 who were born at 23 weeks; 2 at 24 weeks; 4 at 25 weeks; 3 at 26 weeks; 7 at 27 weeks; 8 at 28 weeks; 2 at 29 weeks; 13 at 30 weeks; 9 at 32 weeks; 2 at 33 weeks; 7 at 34 weeks; 4 at 35 weeks; and 1 at 36 weeks. One thing I can tell you for sure, scientifically and personally – they are all people, though still little ones, inside and outside the womb. A recent research at the University of Oxford, UK found that the human heart actually starts beating when the embryo is just 16 days old!!! See here: First of our three billion heartbeats is sooner than we thought | University of Oxford. Here: Oxford Cardio Research

But to this day the abortion industry will tell you that the baby inside the mother is not alive. Google the latest anti-science article in the Atlantic which basically tells you that the ultrasound heartbeat is imaginary and the ultrasound is an invention of the patriarchy as a way to control women. (Has this world gone nuts or its only Americans that are devolving?). Read here: on Twitter

and more here: Abortion Science: Heartbeats Are Imaginary, Unborn Babies Aren’t Alive: Ultrasound Heartbeat is Imaginary

When we have love, we allow for life and we celebrate life. When we have not love, we celebrate one’s choice to be the death goddess of self-destruction.

Meet Walter. He was born at 19 weeks. (Source: Walter)

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Meet baby boy Lennox when he was born at 24 weeks, an age that babies still get aborted at in the USA (Source:Lennox)

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And this is my very own [that the doctors offered me to terminate because I had a high risk of having a baby with Down Syndrome]. My daughter born at close to 42 weeks:

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Don’t know about you but the only thing that my mind and heart can utter at this point is … Lord, help. Choose love.

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Down Syndrome – a curse or a blessing?

yaThis is Yulissa Arescurenaga. She has Down Syndrome and she is an accredited Zumba instructor.

Using information gathered from all member registries of the European Surveillance of Congenital Abnormalities, from 2008 to 2012, “…there were 4,288 live births of children with Down Syndrome (DS), 231 natural fetal deaths, and 5,215 terminations. DS live births as a percentage of total diagnosed pregnancies was 44%. Fifty-three percent of all pregnancies were aborted following prenatal diagnosis…”

In the United States, we have no such data collection.

But according to a 2004-2006 study of the CDC (Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, USA), “…abortion after prenatal diagnosis has reduced the population of individuals living with DS in the U.S. by approximately 30%.”

These kids for me are not mere statistic. I work with them, every week, sometimes almost every day. They are people. As a matter of fact, they are some of the most lovable and loving human beings I have ever met in my life. A country that does not consider an unborn child as “life” and as a human being with constitutional rights cannot be a progressive country.

You can watch Yulissa’s work routine here: Yulissa work


Exciting news!

A few of you know the exciting news, and some of you not at all. Let me just say that I am a blessed mother. Thank you, God, for giving me the gift of my daughter.

My daughter published her first novel, Danger, in January 2016 at the precious age of 13 years. I want to share this beautiful moment with all of you! Alexandra describes the genre in her unique way, as a spiritual adventure. She, a 13 year old girl, is writing from the perspective of a 9 year old boy, who is in search of his missing mother. Danger shows that you can still find your way even when the path takes you in unexpected directions.

Take a look at the press release in these publications below and please share the news with your friends and social network. If you feel moved to grab a copy for yourself please know that you are helping a single working parent household and all proceeds made will go towards Alexandra’s college fund (Available here: Amazon). She wants to be an astronaut so maybe you can be a part of her dream come through. God willing!

See press release in American Public Media here: American Public Media and the Boston Globe here: The Boston Globe

Press Release Text Below:

Book Cover Danger

At thirteen-years-old, Alexandra Love knows what young audiences like to read. Unlike most teenagers her age, however, she’s hoping to add her own work to that list.

 

In Love’s debut novel, “Danger,” the young author is combing mystery and spirituality in an exciting new way that will draw readers into a gripping spiritual adventure.

Following a young boy in search of his missing mother, “Danger” shows that you can still find your way even when the path takes you in unexpected directions. Filled with supernatural experiences, vivid explorations and unlikely partnerships, the novel takes readers on a journey that will enthrall them to the end.

Teaching readers that there’s always greater forces working to make something good out of the bad, the novel provides the perfect experience for readers looking for entertainment as well as inspiration.

Inspired by C.S. Lewis’ “Chronicles of Narnia,” Alexandra Love created “Danger” to sow the seeds of the Gospel in a simple way that would hook children from the first page.

By exploring the relationship between the Divine Being and the human being, Love hopes to satisfy readers’ desire to get more in touch with their spirituality and possibly take their first step closer to God.

A children’s book written by a young author hoping to connect children to something greater, Alexandra Love’s “Danger” is the perfect novel for anyone looking for a little more out of their reading experience.

“Danger” by Alexandra Love is now available for purchase on Amazon and other online retailers.

About the author: Born in 2002, Alexandra Love spent nearly a year and a half developing her debut novel, “Danger,” and was only thirteen years old when it was published. Having been homeschooled since 2014, Love’s creative writing prowess and ideas have helped shape her education from a young age. In addition to playing competitive basketball and performing in a youth orchestra as a violinist, Love has enjoyed traveling to Bulgaria, the Amazon and has made several trips across the United States. Of Bulgarian descent, she currently lives in California and dreams of one day becoming an astronaut.


Euthanasia, or the case of doctor assisted suicide, and communism in the USA

I am working on my transitional doctorate in Physical Therapy and in one of my classes we were asked to participate in a discussion (in writing) and provide our argument whether we are for or against one’s ability to choose when his or her life should end as “Patients are taking a much more active role in the process of death and dying”  today. I took this assignment to a personal level and so I thought to share my thoughts with you.

I am afraid I do not have a strong or interesting argument on this matter that most people will agree with. I tend to think rather simply in terms of life and death, and so please forgive me if my argument seems rather simple for such a complex question.

I do not believe that we have the right to murder. No matter how we sugarcoat it or make it sound more politically correct or compassionate, the matter of fact is that we are talking about murder here, specifically suicide (taking of one’s own life).

Here are the questions we have to ask ourselves. What does it mean to be human? When does life begin? What is life? What is the purpose of life? What is the meaning of life? What is our destiny as human beings? Who has the right to take life away?

I believe that it is the person’s worldview that shapes the answer to our assignment’s question and to the above questions. My worldview teaches me that every human being, from the unborn to the oldest and most disabled one, has dignity and value. It teaches me that human life is more than just the collections of atoms that happened to be by some random chances. It teaches me that human is more than just another animal. It teaches me that there is something more to humans. It teaches me that people, no matter of the color of their skin, their size, their disability level, their health status, their age, or any other qualifier, all have an inherent worth and unmatched, in the natural world, abilities and consciousness. That is why as human beings we also see the value of animals and the rest of nature as a whole, and are on a never-ending pursuit to protect and better the natural world. Ironically, we live in times when animals are being humanized while the very human being is being dehumanized.

The taking of life is taking of life. Period. All the sugarcoating that it is the loving and right thing to do, or that we make it easier on the suffering patient, only painfully remind me of the communist days about which I know a lot. I grew up during communism. My great grandparents lived through the horrors of the Nazis. Today, we have a different kind of extermination but with the same ideology – get rid of the weak, suffering, disabled, unwanted unborn, and any other vulnerable “category” by brainwashing people to believe that it is actually good for them, that it is ok, and that it is their God-given right “under certain circumstances” to choose when one’s life should end.

We live in times when people are being fed a constant diet of “do as you feel,” “it is your right…” and “what’s right for you is right for you.” This kind of mindset not only normalizes the taking away of one’s life, be it by abortion or euthanasia, but it effectively brainwashes people to reduce the value and dignity of human life to zero. People are being lied to and led to believe that it is ok to kill “under certain circumstances” – be it because you can do with your body as you please because it is your body, your choice or be it because it is your life, hence, it is your choice whether you want to go through any more suffering and pain. I have seen enough in my life and if there is one thing I can assure you, it is that, if we continue with this worldview, the USA will be committing the greatest genocide – to its own people – in the history of humankind, without even its citizens realizing it, but actually praising themselves for the “progress” achieved.

I simply refuse to believe that in the XXI Century, when we are investigating ways to reach and colonize Mars, we cannot do better than to give death as an option to our own patients or family members. I refuse to believe that we haven’t evolved enough, mentally and technologically, that we cannot help the suffering ones survive with improved and sufficient relief, and in an environment of love and quality support through one’s last days and suffering.

There is nothing loving or compassionate in being able to choose when one’s life should end, but rather there is selfishness and fear because we know what it would mean if that person lives. May be it would mean that we’d have to self-sacrifice or that we’d have to work harder. May be it would mean that we’d actually have to show love and compassion in a real practical way to the suffering people we serve or have in our family. May be we’d have to pay more. May be we would be stressed, distressed, and stretched in unimaginable ways. Whatever the “may be” may be, one thing is for sure – it will cost us more to support and encourage the person in their trial of pain and suffering. And may be… we want the less costly and more convenient thing.

Choosing to end one’s life may definitely be the easy and most convenient way out, but that does not mean it is the right way.

And I think this is where people clash in these discussions. Because defining what this “right way” is truly comes from one’s own worldview. The question here to ask is – who are you allowing to shape your worldview?

One of the biggest impressions, that I have had since immigrating to the USA and that my family and friends who have also lived under communism have, is that there is silent communism, as we call it, creeping in the USA. Those in position of power have learned their lesson from Stalin and Hitler, and know that in order to control the mind of the populace and shape their worldview, they cannot go through the “front door” anymore as those cruel leaders did because people in the U.S. will see-through it and react. The way that it is being done for many years now is to shape people’s worldview by getting in “through the back door” via education and entertainment, or simply – edutainment. Teach the people from little that it is their right to be the gods in their lives. Teach them that they have the right to choose whether or not someone is considered a human being or not, and whether or not they have the right to live. Teach them that these are, ironically, their human rights. And little by little, watch to see how the human person, especially the disabled, elderly, suffering, and unborn, is being exterminated by so-called compassionate and loving government-educational and politically-led initiatives and worshipped celebrities, which have done their job to teach people about “compassion,” “love,” and “progress.”

Lastly, let me say, that I understand that I have probably irritated a lot of people with my post. It is not my intention. But if this is our assignment, I want to exercise my freedom of speech, while I have it, to state what I believe and why. I just want to say that I, my family, and my whole Bulgarian people have been through so much pain and suffering individually and as a nation, that present day Americans cannot even imagine. I am afraid that while teaching “tolerance” in the schools and across the U.S., the American people have been robbed of one of the most important life-sustaining abilities, necessary for humanity’s survival, – that is the tolerance to pain and suffering.

 

 

 


Is Christmas pagan?

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“How did December 25 become Christmas? There are two theories today: one extremely popular, the other less often heard outside scholarly circles (though far more ancient).

The most loudly touted theory about the origins of the Christmas date(s) is that it was borrowed from pagan celebrations. The Romans had their mid-winter Saturnalia festival in late December; barbarian peoples of northern and western Europe kept holidays at similar times. To top it off, in 274 C.E., the Roman emperor Aurelian established a feast of the birth of Sol Invictus (the Unconquered Sun), on December 25. Christmas, the argument goes, is really a spin-off from these pagan solar festivals. According to this theory, early Christians deliberately chose these dates to encourage the spread of Christmas and Christianity throughout the Roman world: If Christmas looked like a pagan holiday, more pagans would be open to both the holiday and the God whose birth it celebrated.

Despite its popularity today, this theory of Christmas’s origins has its problems. It is not found in any ancient Christian writings, for one thing. Christian authors of the time do note a connection between the solstice and Jesus’ birth: The church father Ambrose (c. 339–397), for example, described Christ as the true sun, who outshone the fallen gods of the old order. But early Christian writers never hint at any recent calendrical engineering; they clearly don’t think the date was chosen by the church. Rather they see the coincidence as a providential sign, as natural proof that God had selected Jesus over the false pagan gods.

It’s not until the 12th century that we find the first suggestion that Jesus’ birth celebration was deliberately set at the time of pagan feasts. A marginal note on a manuscript of the writings of the Syriac biblical commentator Dionysius bar-Salibi states that in ancient times the Christmas holiday was actually shifted from January 6 to December 25 so that it fell on the same date as the pagan Sol Invictus holiday. In the 18th and 19th centuries, Bible scholars spurred on by the new study of comparative religions latched on to this idea. They claimed that because the early Christians didn’t know when Jesus was born, they simply assimilated the pagan solstice festival for their own purposes, claiming it as the time of the Messiah’s birth and celebrating it accordingly.

More recent studies have shown that many of the holiday’s modern trappings do reflect pagan customs borrowed much later, as Christianity expanded into northern and western Europe. The Christmas tree, for example, has been linked with late medieval druidic practices. This has only encouraged modern audiences to assume that the date, too, must be pagan.

There are problems with this popular theory, however, as many scholars recognize. Most significantly, the first mention of a date for Christmas (c. 200) and the earliest celebrations that we know about (c. 250–300) come in a period when Christians were not borrowing heavily from pagan traditions of such an obvious character.

Granted, Christian belief and practice were not formed in isolation. Many early elements of Christian worship—including eucharistic meals, meals honoring martyrs and much early Christian funerary art—would have been quite comprehensible to pagan observers. Yet, in the first few centuries C.E., the persecuted Christian minority was greatly concerned with distancing itself from the larger, public pagan religious observances, such as sacrifices, games and holidays. This was still true as late as the violent persecutions of the Christians conducted by the Roman emperor Diocletian between 303 and 312 C.E.

This would change only after Constantine converted to Christianity. From the mid-fourth century on, we do find Christians deliberately adapting and Christianizing pagan festivals. A famous proponent of this practice was Pope Gregory the Great, who, in a letter written in 601 C.E. to a Christian missionary in Britain, recommended that local pagan temples not be destroyed but be converted into churches, and that pagan festivals be celebrated as feasts of Christian martyrs. At this late point, Christmas may well have acquired some pagan trappings. But we don’t have evidence of Christians adopting pagan festivals in the third century, at which point dates for Christmas were established. Thus, it seems unlikely that the date was simply selected to correspond with pagan solar festivals.

The December 25 feast seems to have existed before 312—before Constantine and his conversion, at least. As we have seen, the Donatist Christians in North Africa seem to have known it from before that time. Furthermore, in the mid- to late fourth century, church leaders in the eastern Empire concerned themselves not with introducing a celebration of Jesus’ birthday, but with the addition of the December date to their traditional celebration on January [6.7]

There is another way to account for the origins of Christmas on December 25: Strange as it may seem, the key to dating Jesus’ birth may lie in the dating of Jesus’ death at Passover. This view was first suggested to the modern world by French scholar Louis Duchesne in the early 20th century and fully developed by American Thomas Talley in more recent years.[8] But they were certainly not the first to note a connection between the traditional date of Jesus’ death and his birth.

Around 200 C.E. Tertullian of Carthage reported the calculation that the 14th of Nisan (the day of the crucifixion according to the Gospel of John) in the year Jesus diedc was equivalent to March 25 in the Roman (solar) calendar.[9] March 25 is, of course, nine months before December 25; it was later recognized as the Feast of the Annunciation—the commemoration of Jesus’ conception.[10] Thus, Jesus was believed to have been conceived and crucified on the same day of the year. Exactly nine months later, Jesus was born, on December 25.[d]

This idea appears in an anonymous Christian treatise titled On Solstices and Equinoxes, which appears to come from fourth-century North Africa. The treatise states: “Therefore our Lord was conceived on the eighth of the kalends of April in the month of March [March 25], which is the day of the passion of the Lord and of his conception. For on that day he was conceived on the same he suffered.”[11] Based on this, the treatise dates Jesus’ birth to the winter solstice.

Augustine, too, was familiar with this association. In On the Trinity (c. 399–419) he writes: “For he [Jesus] is believed to have been conceived on the 25th of March, upon which day also he suffered; so the womb of the Virgin, in which he was conceived, where no one of mortals was begotten, corresponds to the new grave in which he was buried, wherein was never man laid, neither before him nor since. But he was born, according to tradition, upon December the 25th.”[12]

In the East, too, the dates of Jesus’ conception and death were linked. But instead of working from the 14th of Nisan in the Hebrew calendar, the easterners used the 14th of the first spring month (Artemisios) in their local Greek calendar—April 6 to us. April 6 is, of course, exactly nine months before January 6—the eastern date for Christmas. In the East, too, we have evidence that April was associated with Jesus’ conception and crucifixion. Bishop Epiphanius of Salamis writes that on April 6, “The lamb was shut up in the spotless womb of the holy virgin, he who took away and takes away in perpetual sacrifice the sins of the world.”[13] Even today, the Armenian Church celebrates the Annunciation in early April (on the 7th, not the 6th) and Christmas on January 6.[e]

Thus, we have Christians in two parts of the world calculating Jesus’ birth on the basis that his death and conception took place on the same day (March 25 or April 6) and coming up with two close but different results (December 25 and January 6).

Connecting Jesus’ conception and death in this way will certainly seem odd to modern readers, but it reflects ancient and medieval understandings of the whole of salvation being bound up together. One of the most poignant expressions of this belief is found in Christian art. In numerous paintings of the angel’s Annunciation to Mary—the moment of Jesus’ conception—the baby Jesus is shown gliding down from heaven on or with a small cross; a visual reminder that the conception brings the promise of salvation through Jesus’ death.

The notion that creation and redemption should occur at the same time of year is also reflected in ancient Jewish tradition, recorded in the Talmud. The Babylonian Talmud preserves a dispute between two early-second-century C.E. rabbis who share this view, but disagree on the date: Rabbi Eliezer states: “In Nisan the world was created; in Nisan the Patriarchs were born; on Passover Isaac was born … and in Nisan they [our ancestors] will be redeemed in time to come.” (The other rabbi, Joshua, dates these same events to the following month, Tishri.)[14] Thus, the dates of Christmas and Epiphany may well have resulted from Christian theological reflection on such chronologies: Jesus would have been conceived on the same date he died, and born nine months later.[15]

In the end we are left with a question: How did December 25 become Christmas? We cannot be entirely sure. Elements of the festival that developed from the fourth century until modern times may well derive from pagan traditions. Yet the actual date might really derive more from Judaism—from Jesus’ death at Passover, and from the rabbinic notion that great things might be expected, again and again, at the same time of the year—than from paganism. Then again, in this notion of cycles and the return of God’s redemption, we may perhaps also be touching upon something that the pagan Romans who celebrated Sol Invictus, and many other peoples since, would have understood and claimed for their own, too.[16]”

– This is an expert from “How December 25 Became Christmas” by Andrew McGowan originally appeared in Bible Review, December 2002. To view full article please visit Biblical Archeology site at http://www.biblicalarchaeology.org/daily/biblical-topics/new-testament/how-december-25-became-christmas/

Notes:
d. The ancients were familiar with the 9-month gestation period based on the observance of women’s menstrual cycles, pregnancies and miscarriages.

e. In the West (and eventually everywhere), the Easter celebration was later shifted from the actual day to the following Sunday. The insistence of the eastern Christians in keeping Easter on the actual 14th day caused a major debate within the church, with the easterners sometimes referred to as the Quartodecimans, or “Fourteenthers.”
6. Prominent among these was Paul Ernst Jablonski; on the history of scholarship, see especially Roll, “The Origins of Christmas,” pp. 277–283.

7. For example, Gregory of Nazianzen, Oratio 38; John Chrysostom, In Diem Natalem.

8. Louis Duchesne, Origines du culte Chrétien, 5th ed. (Paris: Thorin et Fontemoing, 1925), pp. 275–279; and Talley, Origins.

9. Tertullian, Adversus Iudaeos 8.

10. There are other relevant texts for this element of argument, including Hippolytus and the (pseudo-Cyprianic) De pascha computus; see Talley, Origins, pp. 86, 90–91.

11. De solstitia et aequinoctia conceptionis et nativitatis domini nostri iesu christi et iohannis baptistae.

12. Augustine, Sermon 202.

13. Epiphanius is quoted in Talley, Origins, p. 98.

14. b. Rosh Hashanah 10b–11a.

15. Talley, Origins, pp. 81–82.

16. On the two theories as false alternatives, see Roll, “Origins of Christmas.”


Inland Regional Center Massacre

“Love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.” ~Jesus

“Fight those who do not believe in Allah.” ~Muhammad

See the difference? ~ as David Wood would ask.

December 3, 2015:
“At my office in Regional Center right now in SoCal. Not Inland Regional Center, but another local RC. The mass shooting yesterday at Inland RC was absolutely devastating. My heart goes out to all my colleagues there. This happens in California, the state with the strictest gun control and background checks; the state where it’s so hard to get guns. I’ve always said, gun control is just addressing and masking the symptom of the disease; not curing it. This world is where it is because of the cruelty of men to men. Thankful to the police officers who are patrolling our RC today.

It is a tragedy but I urge you all to not give in to fear and intimidation. Don’t be afraid of the ones who can only harm the body but cannot touch the soul.”

On December 1, 2015, I shared a quote from Francis Schaeffer:
“Man’s own choices have led men where they are. In their own way, all men are like the 1960 hippie who said, ‘Well, I don’t care what happens to the next generation. I will take LSD even if it does split the chromosomes. I care only for the moment.’ In age after age, men who had the truth have deliberately thrown it away. The world is what it is, not as a result of the cruelty of God to man, but of the cruelty of man to man.” (Death in the City)

The words of rabbi John Parsons are good to remember today:
“Dietrich Bonhoeffer, who was surrounded by the evil of Nazi Germany, regarded stupidity as more dangerous than outright evil, since stupidity is a type of irrationality, a *chosen ignorance of what is real and true. Against such willed ignorance we are often defenseless, since any reasoning that appeals to transcendental moral truth finds no “traction,” carries no weight, and has no effect. The devil, then, seeks first of all to stupefy people, that is, to flatter and persuade them that there is no need for them to engage in serious thinking or to humbly question their assumptions… As William James observed: “A great many people think they are thinking when they are merely rearranging their prejudices.” The antidote to unthinkingly accepting the biases and inculcated prejudices of the world is to awaken to the reality of God: “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge; but fools despise wisdom and correction” (Prov. 1:7).”

Folks, America has turned back from the true path. Would you remember Jesus today and turn back on the right track?

Shannon Johnson

Photo obtained from Danusha Goshka’s blog Save Send Delete


42 Ways to Protect the Heart of Your Daughter

My daughter and I were at a girls’ Purity conference last month, and one of the lectures discussed this very topic. This list is mostly from the speaker, though I have added my thoughts. Forgive me for not remembering to write down the name so I can give him proper credit. But I am sure that he’d be happy to share this information. Big thanks to Kimbrlee, the young conference organizer for a refreshing, inspiring and encouraging conference weekend.

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42 Ways to Protect Your Daughter’s Heart

  1. Love God
  2. Protect the mind [thinking], convictions, and emotions of your daughter
  3. Love your spouse. If single parent, focus that love on Jesus as your significant other and love your parents [close family relations]
  4. Plan with your spouse. If single parent (or notJ), prayerfully plan and consider everything with God. He’s your significant other.
  5. Provide wise schedule and goals
  6. Understand the dangers your [outside the home] jobs may be having on inside-the-home
  7. Help your daughter understand the importance of modesty
  8. Conquer wrong habits in your life (i.e. anger, yelling, laziness, etc.]
  9. Keep an open spirit and communication. Your child needs to feel loved. Don’t be your child’s “police,” but her ally.
  10. Agree with your spouse regarding child training. If single, ask for council your family or closest family friends. Our goal as parents is to train and equip our children. When we train and equip, there won’t be room for time-outs/punishments. And though “punishment” may be needed sometimes, it is in no way to be promoted.
  11. Understand and clarify to your daughter the true consequences of wrong actions
  12. Realize that your defeats affect your children
  13. Ask your child for your “blind spots.” Humility is therapeutic.
  14. Be quick to ask forgiveness for offences
  15. Guide your daughter to establish biblical convictions and visions.
  16. Give your daughter a vision of her gifts.
  17. Acknowledge the iniquities of your forefathers
  18. Review past lessons that you’ve taught her. Bed time is important teaching time.
  19. Respond to rebellion right away. When there is rebellion, there’s usually bitterness because there is an underlying offence. Absorb all the blame.
  20. Take your daughter on get-togethers.
  21. Pray daily for wisdom, knowledge, discernment, and skills.
  22. Know when to remove your daughter from danger, including dangerous influences. Risk offending people for the sake of your child.
  23. Teach brothers (if any) how to protect sisters. Make siblings their best friends.
  24. Praise our daughters. Praise gives instant success.
  25. Protect her from inappropriate gatherings with other kids, and inappropriate, immoral music and entertainment influence. Shut the TV. Don’t buy entertainment/fashion magazines.
  26. Postpone having a car until wise enough
  27. Introduce her to Godly women. And if none are personally present in your life, do so through biographies of Godly women.
  28. Provide healthy nutrition.
  29. Give your daughter a ministry.
  30. Child proof the child, not just the house.
  31. Always explain “why.”
  32. Teach your daughter all the things that God has taught you.
  33. Protect your child from premature sexual information.
  34. Explain how to find a godly mate
  35. Teach and educate your child. Homeschooling is a calling from home, so I can’t say to everybody to homeschool. It is a call. But every single parent should take an active role in teaching and educating their child. If your child goes to school outside the home, review their homework with them, review their lessons, help them with school work, answer questions, and take the opportunity to teach them.
  36. Keep her away from friends who are going a different direction.
  37. Have modesty in the home, especially if you are a mother. Be modest, in your speech as well as in your dress.
  38. Let your daughter live at home as long as she wants.
  39. Don’t be a TV or a movie family.
  40. Don’t give a “serpent” to your child.
  41. Lead her to memorize long pieces of Scripture.
  42. Fast for your daughter.

[Credit for image: Darlene Kwiatkowski]